It takes a certain fortitude to bring our full attention to inner inventory. A tendency to avoid introspection or to cut the search short whenever we embark on it could indicate a fear within us asking to be addressed.
One possibility is fear of pain. Looking honestly at where we fell short and feeling compassion for people we harmed can be painful. Avoidance and denial can elude pain in the short term. We pack painful memories into moving boxes, seal them with duct tape and chunk them into the attics of our psyches. There they stay. They might not interfere with day-to-day matters, but they don’t go away, either. We can’t move on without dealing with them somehow. We can lug them with us like dead weight or lighten our loads by unpacking them, deciding what needs to be discarded or given away, and choosing only those things of value for our journeys.
It’s often said fear of a thing is worse than the thing itself, and I have found that to be true with unpacking painful memories in introspection. It’s no accident that Twelve Step programs call for fearlessness in the Fourth Step moral inventory. Honest introspection is the most fearsome part of the practice of confession. It helps to remember that the pain we fear can be extremely useful. When we embrace it, it saves us from treading the same ground again. When gathered up, it fuels the journey from the place where you were wounded to a place of healing and newness of life.
If you find yourself lingering at the threshold of introspection, you may need a shot of courage. Ask God for it. When we ask for God’s help navigating obstacles, we tend to be modest. There are several reasons we ask for too little. One is we miss the forest for the trees. Our fixation on an immediate need or desire blinds us to a deeper trait that leads us repeatedly into distress. Or we hesitate to ask for what we need because we don’t want to seem too greedy or to take more than our share of God’s mercy. We ask for too little also because don’t really believe God can or will give what we ask, and doubting God seems safer than trusting him, being vulnerable, or being wrong. We hedge.
Despite our modesty, scripture indicates nothing delights God more than answering the prayers of those who earnestly seek him. God’s mercy is boundless. Your share is not apportioned. Consider whether you want to be driven by fear or something else. Stephen Hawking put forward radical ideas about physics. He wasn’t afraid to be wrong. If he had been, black hole radiation would not have been discovered. He was too curious to be held back by fear. Let curiosity about what God can do in your life lead you forward. Maybe these verses and breathing prayer will bring you courage for the first step.
7Remember not the sins of my youth, or my transgressions; according to thy
steadfast love remember me, for thy goodness’ sake, O Lord!
15My eyes are ever toward the Lord, for he will pluck my feet out of the net. (Ps 25)
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